My Grandson's Best Friend is Acting Strangely: A Concerning Situation

Dear Concerned Grandma, 🌷

You already give Jack something priceless—steady, unconditional love. 💞
Because he’s still processing the loss of his dad, every feeling arrives in its own time. Instead of worrying about how close he is to Elizabeth, trust that this friendship may simply be his safe harbor right now. What matters most is that Jack knows you’re here—ready to listen, play, or simply share a silent hug whenever he needs one.

Offer Calm, Not Conclusions 🧘‍♀️

• Stay present. 📚 Read together, bake cookies, or watch his favorite show—activities that let him set the pace.
• Speak the open‑door truth. 🗝️ “I’m always here if you want to talk about Dad, Elizabeth, or anything else.”
• Suggest extra help when it feels right: a grief counselor, school support group, or art therapy.

Team Up With Your Daughter 🤝

When you chat with Jack’s mom, keep the spotlight on Jack’s whole well‑being, not just his shyness:

1. What seems to soothe him lately? 🎨
2. Are school or social worries piling up? 🎒
3. Which activities bring out his spark? ⚽

Together, brainstorm small steps—maybe shorter school days for now or a weekly playdate with Elizabeth plus another buddy—to widen his circle without pressure.

Your Superpower: Listening Ears & Open Arms 👂💗

You can’t rewrite Jack’s school rules or parent for your daughter, but you can be the constant he turns to when life feels wobbly. Keep the invites coming, answer the late‑night texts, and celebrate tiny victories (“You raised your hand in class today? That’s huge!” 🎉).

Grief is a marathon, not a sprint. By walking beside Jack—never dragging him forward—you help him find his own stride. 🌱

With warmth and respect,
—Nicole

More Advice From Slate 💬

If you’re the introverted parent of an extroverted kid, pick support strategies that feel natural: cheer from the sidelines, share a hobby you both enjoy, and set gentle boundaries that protect your energy while honoring their enthusiasm. 🔄