Shared Parenting SOS: Re-Engaging Your Partner in Infant Care

Dear Meghan, 👋

Many new parents hit the same speed bump you’re facing—big promises turn into lopsided duties, and exhaustion creeps in. 🍼 You’re not alone, and the first step is naming the problem so you can solve it together.

Right now, the parenting load is tilting heavily onto your shoulders, leaving you drained and frustrated. 😓 Open, judgment-free conversation is the antidote. Invite your husband to share how he sees things, too, so you’re solving together rather than keeping score. 💬

Tired mother cradling smiling infant while father looks on uncertainly from doorway.

Start the Dialogue 🤝

Try a calm sit-down after baby’s asleep. Use “I feel…” statements and stay curious about his perspective. This resets the tone from blame to teamwork.

Use a Concrete Tool 🧩

Eve Rodsky’s Fair Play Deck turns chores and childcare into visible “cards” you can divvy up based on values and schedules. Laying the cards on the table—literally—helps each of you own full tasks from planning to execution.

Build Father-Infant Bonding 👶❤️

Encourage hands-on moments he enjoys: bath time, silly songs, or a nightly story. Sensory interaction deepens attachment and boosts his confidence as a caregiver.

Call in Backup if Needed 🛠️

If talks stall, a couples’ therapist offers a neutral space to unpack feelings and sharpen communication skills. Think of it as maintenance for the marriage engine—not a last resort.

Remember: a rested, supported you is the best gift to your daughter and your relationship. 💤 Prioritize self-care, celebrate every small win, and keep the conversation flowing. You’ve got this, and a balanced, joyful family rhythm is absolutely within reach. 🌟

Best wishes on your shared-parenting journey!