Stronger Together: How Air Commandos Master Long-Distance Co-Parenting

HURLBURT FIELD, Florida – For Tech. Sgt. Timothy Dailey and Master Sgt. Melissa Dailey, celebrating their 12th wedding anniversary meant another year apart—separated by thousands of miles due to military service.

Instead of a traditional celebration, they shared a virtual meal, surprising each other with cake and flowers. For the Daileys, finding creative ways to stay connected has become part of their journey as both a military couple and parents.

💼 Navigating Deployment and Parenting

Timothy, a noncommissioned officer with the 1st Special Operations Security Forces Squadron, had been deployed for six months when Melissa received an unaccompanied assignment. Their parenting dynamic quickly shifted—each had to take on the role of both parents at different times.

“As service members, this is what we signed up for,” Timothy explained. “It’s not overwhelmingly negative—it’s about understanding the details and doing what needs to be done.”

Melissa added, “Flexibility is key. You have to give yourself grace during long separations. There will be hard days, but communication and emotional openness help us push through.”

🗓 Building a System of Support

The couple relies on shared calendars, reminders, and strong family ties to manage daily life. Timothy’s parents, who live just seven minutes away, play a crucial role in caring for their two children, ages 10 and 7.

“I feel very fortunate to have my parents nearby,” Timothy said. “They step in when work commitments prevent me from being there.”

Beyond family, supportive leadership and military programs make a huge difference. Timothy worked with his supervisors to find a role within the 1st SOSFS that balanced Air Force standards with family needs.

❤️ Resources That Strengthen Families

The Military and Family Readiness Center (M&FRC) has been an essential lifeline. Through initiatives like Hearts Apart, families of deployed members connect monthly, receive childcare support, and access resources that help them adjust to deployment cycles.

“Having a supervisor who cares, checks in, and understands your circumstances has made all the difference,” Timothy shared. “Adapt, adjust, and lean on those around you—the support you receive may surprise you.”

For the Daileys, co-parenting across time zones isn’t easy, but with teamwork, communication, and community support, they continue to build resilience—proving that love and family can stay strong even from a distance.